Ok, we've all heard about the saying's "you always find what you're looking for", or "you catch what you're chasing", right? Well, why is it that we continue to ask ourselves (men and women) why we never seem to find a good match or partner? Here are some tips on reeling in a "good catch" in the future.
When thinking in comparisons, the dating game is like a pond, or river, ocean, etc. Everybody always refers to the single life, as testing the "fish in the sea". Well, this analogy is accurate, and that's what we'll use to discuss this crazy thing called dating. The most important thing to take into consideration is figuring out where you want to select this potential partner. This is important because the location you find the person of interest in can be very representative of their lifestyle. For instance, if you find a guy of interest while you're out at a nightclub, you must make a mental note that this guy does like to party, and has somewhat of a night life. It's always hilarious to hear people complaining about their partner being in the club too much, or that they wish their partner would be home more. If they were clubbing when you met them, you have no right to be upset if they continue to club once you are officially a couple. This doesn't apply to everyone; there are some people that tone down or cease their night life altogether eventually, whether it be due to getting to feel too old for the scene, or just simply to make their partner happy. PLEASE DON'T BE FOOLED, however about the location you meet a person at. There are plenty of people that know the tricks and trades, and will post up at places like the library, grocery store, and sadly, even the church in order to come across as a good guy, or try to find a "good girl". So focusing exclusively on the location of where you find a potential mate can be deceiving, but it is a good thing to pay attention to.
Next, you want to be real with yourself, and decide exactly what kind of guy/gal you really want in your life. So many people automatically go for the most handsome or most attractive person, which is fairly normal, since physical attraction is what appeals to most people first upon first contact. However, you want to make sure that you keep an open mind, and check out other attributes, such as personality. You could miss out on a good thing, or even the perfect mate, by just overlooking someone because they may not have more muscles or a greater smile than the next individual. This would be a perfect time to point out the people that are only interested in looking for men or women that are wealthy. Although it's always nice to have gifts given in a relationship, searching for a partner for materialistic reasons never really turns out as it should. Not only that, women are definitely looked upon in a negative way for this behavior, as well as men. And we don't need a world full of golddiggers, groupies, and/or hopeless male moochers, do we?
Keeping what kind of partner you want in mind, this leads me to my next point. If you want to appeal to a certain type of person, you need to dress to impress. When you go in for an interview at a job, you dress accordingly, so why can't that be applied to the dating game? It is important to always try to look your best, because this not only makes you look good, it also makes you feel good, and appear approachable by others. No one wants to be around someone that looks like they just jumped out of the bed, no matter how much a guy says that a girl is her cutest in sweatpants and things like that (the line has to be drawn somewhere!). How you dress can affect the type of person you attract. Ladies, if you are always dressed provocatively, don't be surprised or upset when the attention you get is negative and always sexual. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with being sexy, but sexiness can be achieved in many different ways that don't involve your cheeks hanging out of your shorts or dress, or wearing shorts that fit like underwear. There's a difference between sexy and skanky. This can be applied to my fellas as well: if you are always in raggedy tennis shoes, dingy white tees, and things of the like, don't expect to find a woman that is well dressed and manicured, or a business woman. It has nothing to do with a woman feeling like she's too good for the next man; if you find yourself always saying that a woman is stuck up or snobby..it may be time to evaluate your appearance and demeanor.
It is extremely important to represent what you want in life, and who you want in your life. The way you carry yourself and maintain your appearance can speak a thousand volumes. And like they say....you catch what you fish for.
When thinking in comparisons, the dating game is like a pond, or river, ocean, etc. Everybody always refers to the single life, as testing the "fish in the sea". Well, this analogy is accurate, and that's what we'll use to discuss this crazy thing called dating. The most important thing to take into consideration is figuring out where you want to select this potential partner. This is important because the location you find the person of interest in can be very representative of their lifestyle. For instance, if you find a guy of interest while you're out at a nightclub, you must make a mental note that this guy does like to party, and has somewhat of a night life. It's always hilarious to hear people complaining about their partner being in the club too much, or that they wish their partner would be home more. If they were clubbing when you met them, you have no right to be upset if they continue to club once you are officially a couple. This doesn't apply to everyone; there are some people that tone down or cease their night life altogether eventually, whether it be due to getting to feel too old for the scene, or just simply to make their partner happy. PLEASE DON'T BE FOOLED, however about the location you meet a person at. There are plenty of people that know the tricks and trades, and will post up at places like the library, grocery store, and sadly, even the church in order to come across as a good guy, or try to find a "good girl". So focusing exclusively on the location of where you find a potential mate can be deceiving, but it is a good thing to pay attention to.
Next, you want to be real with yourself, and decide exactly what kind of guy/gal you really want in your life. So many people automatically go for the most handsome or most attractive person, which is fairly normal, since physical attraction is what appeals to most people first upon first contact. However, you want to make sure that you keep an open mind, and check out other attributes, such as personality. You could miss out on a good thing, or even the perfect mate, by just overlooking someone because they may not have more muscles or a greater smile than the next individual. This would be a perfect time to point out the people that are only interested in looking for men or women that are wealthy. Although it's always nice to have gifts given in a relationship, searching for a partner for materialistic reasons never really turns out as it should. Not only that, women are definitely looked upon in a negative way for this behavior, as well as men. And we don't need a world full of golddiggers, groupies, and/or hopeless male moochers, do we?
Keeping what kind of partner you want in mind, this leads me to my next point. If you want to appeal to a certain type of person, you need to dress to impress. When you go in for an interview at a job, you dress accordingly, so why can't that be applied to the dating game? It is important to always try to look your best, because this not only makes you look good, it also makes you feel good, and appear approachable by others. No one wants to be around someone that looks like they just jumped out of the bed, no matter how much a guy says that a girl is her cutest in sweatpants and things like that (the line has to be drawn somewhere!). How you dress can affect the type of person you attract. Ladies, if you are always dressed provocatively, don't be surprised or upset when the attention you get is negative and always sexual. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with being sexy, but sexiness can be achieved in many different ways that don't involve your cheeks hanging out of your shorts or dress, or wearing shorts that fit like underwear. There's a difference between sexy and skanky. This can be applied to my fellas as well: if you are always in raggedy tennis shoes, dingy white tees, and things of the like, don't expect to find a woman that is well dressed and manicured, or a business woman. It has nothing to do with a woman feeling like she's too good for the next man; if you find yourself always saying that a woman is stuck up or snobby..it may be time to evaluate your appearance and demeanor.
It is extremely important to represent what you want in life, and who you want in your life. The way you carry yourself and maintain your appearance can speak a thousand volumes. And like they say....you catch what you fish for.
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