Cooking and Cleaning: Is this REALLY the way to a man's heart?

I've always heard that cooking and cleaning are the way to a man's heart from almost every female I've come across. This is what is taught to many daughters around the country, passed down generation to generation, and this has also become part of the desperate call of the "other woman". Now I understand that cleanliness is a great practice, because it's sanitary, it declutters your life, and it makes anything appear in a nicer way. However, does having a clean home really help you keep your man?

I know many females that are always bragging and boasting about cooking for men, or cleaning their houses because they're dirty. However, most of these women fall into two categories: They are either chasing someone else's man, or they are just a booty call to that guy and either don't know it, or won't admit it.

In my opinion, I don't think that either of those things will keep a man, or win a man's heart. I must say that my home can get cluttered at times due to having such a busy schedule, and not really favoring cleaning. I must also admit that I'm not the best chef, and after a long day of work, I would like nothing better than to have a dinner cooked for me already, which is why I tend to eat out more than in. However, the lack of being an expert in cooking and cleaning has never stopped me from a successful relationship. As a matter of fact, my significant other of 8 years knew my faults, and loved me past them. If he can do it, so can others.

I think that women need to stop singing the same old anthem of "I cook, I clean, I sex you real good". If cooking and cleaning were SO important to a relationship, then why are so many women that do so still single? Why are they chasing men that don't belong to them? Sure that man is coming over to get a meal, and sure he's going to give you something you can feel later, but after that what happens? More than likely, he won't even be spending the night. Ladies, stop boasting that you're someone's maid. Stop allowing your domestic qualities to control you, because if a man doesn't want you like that, you'll just be the jumpoff with the clean house where he can go to get a good meal. Just sayin.

We know who you are, don't fool yourself!

I remember back in middle school and high school when I used to walk around always using the phrase "in real life", to really relay a message about something that's really happening. It was my way of saying "in all actuality,", "Really,", or "honestly," just to give a good idea of how I used this phrase. I have realized over time that there are some people that really should use this phrase when they're talking to others, so that people know when they're lying or not.

This is a topic that is loooooooooooong overdue. Too many people are walking around pretending to be people that they really aren't. This is especially true on social networks. Apparently, social networks seem to be some people's outlets or escape doors into the world of their dreams. There are people that lie about whole lifestyles, from pretending to hit every hot celeb party, all the way to lying about making 6 figures and/or being married.

At what point does one stop and realize that there are people out there who REALLY know who they are, and what goes on in their life? If you are lying to half the people on your facebook or twitter page, do you ever stop and think about the other half that knows you are miserable, alone, broke, and obviously filled with self esteem issues? I mean, honestly, do people really think that they can inform everyone that they work at the mall or as an attendance clerk in a school district, and then post pics every week wearing a different pair of "Christian Louboutins" and "Karen Millen" designer clothes?

The truth is people know when others are trying to put on like they have a glamourous life, and it goes without saying that if you do have such a great life, you would not have to broadcast every little thing you buy, or do, in order to get approval from your social network "fam". My advice to those living lies out there is to:

1. Find something to do with yourself and your time. If you are busy doing productive things, you won't have time to make up unnecessary lies to tell others.

2. Start improving your life day by day in order to achieve the life you really want to lead.

2. Be honest with YOURSELF, because if you can't even begin to really come to terms with what's going on in your life, you can't begin to change the lies you tell using that second or third personality of yours....."in real life".

Alicia Keys......ummmm did you forget?!!!!!

I must say I'm pretty torn with Alicia Keys. I love her music, she's a very beautiful woman, and glows even more now that she is with child. However, I can't seem to get past the hypocrisy. Honestly, here you are, always empowering women, always talking about superwomen, and proving that real women do exist, just to end up snatching up somebody's husband and getting knocked up. I found myself in awe and disgust at the same time when she gave her awards speech and shouted out all the superwomen in the world.

It doesn't stop there. Alicia, did you forget you got a whollllllllllllle baby in your tummy?! As a mother, I have to say that she was very reckless up there on that stage, although I enjoyed the performances. From the Dolce & Gabbana mini dress that all but bared her cooter, to the sky high YSL pumps (red at that, sorry, I don't get the idea of matching that with purple) she wore walking seductively around stage. Does being knocked up make you feel sexier?And if so, why didn't I feel that sexiness when I was pregnant?!

Her "Adore" performance took the cake though. When is it EVER okay when you're 6 months pregnant to climb on stuff?! Not just climbing but rolling around! As my grandparents, parents, and any other old school folks would say, "Get somewhere and SET ya ass DOWN, Alicia!" Now is the time to get back behind that piano and just sing and play!

Here's the Prince tribute performance: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qV_Qn3fT4N8

What do you think?

Breakthrough Moment: Chris Brown

I know that I wasn't the only one going through many different emotions last night as I watched the Michael Jackson tribute. One minute I was sneering and making fun of Jermaine Jackson's hair (which he obviously paints on with a sharpie marker), the next I was tweeting @chrisbrown telling him "Dont be nervous, God is with you" right before he hit the stage, then I was stunned and in awe at how brilliant the tribute was. Chris Brown's moves are almost just as good as Michael's! See the performance for yourself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIvLGi2_mjQ

I honestly feel that Chris was extremely overwhelmed with this being his biggest performance since the Rihanna incident. I think it was a combination of all kinds of mixed feelings, from mourning his idol Michael Jackson, to mourning the loss of the world's admiration for a mistake, all the way to feeling the present love and forgiveness being gained in that one performance. People can say what they want, he is not the first nor the last celebrity that will put their hands on a woman, and although he has made a terrible mistake, forgiveness is long overdue for any of us that claim to be christians. I sincerely believe Chris Brown is back, still EXTREMELY sexy, and will not let his fans down. Team Breezy all the way!

Im sorry, are you important???

Ok, clearly some people just don't like to go unnoticed. Of course we all know that the Saints have made the superbowl, and we also know that where there's a professional athlete jersey, there will also be at least one of the Kardashian sisters. So it comes as no surprise that Kim steps up to the plate, since her man will be participating this year. However, she apparently feels that she is SO important that she has rented an armour vault limo with bulletproof windows and a luxurious interior. This decked out ride (which looks very similiar to a long Brinks truck) can hold up to 28 people, and is rented out at a whopping $8000 nightly, $150,000 if you would like to buy it outright.

I find myself asking why Kim feels that she needs more of a protective vehicle to be transported around in than the freaking team itself. smh Can we say attention seeking? I'm sure everyone in Miami will be dying to rush Kim Kardashian, she's of such an important caliber! smh This isn't your time to shine, Kim. Let your man enjoy his moment. I'm sure the very tight and short dresses you always wear to showcase your backside you paid so much for will get you the attention you die for. Just do a couple of backside photos like you always do. Now excuse me while I (ahem) go make some calls to rent out a tank for myself for the weekend. :)

Sideline hos gone wild (extreme money wasting inside)

Ok, so this story was definitely hilarious, although I feel very bad for the wife. Apparently Charles Phillips, president of a very well known company, Oracle, has been having an affair on his wife with this chick named Ya Vaughnie (interesting name) for--get this--8 years!!! WHO DOES THAT?! Anywho, he decided to FINALLY start doing right by his wife, and break it off with this tramp, and instead of walking away with dignity, she decided to do what most sideline hos do when they get dumped, only times 100!!!

Ya Vaughnie decided to take intimate pictures that she and Charles had taken over the years , and put them on huge billboards in the three main cities that Charles and his wife go visit, New York times square, San Francisco, and Atlanta. This apparently cost her close to $250,000, hopefully it was his money, or else she's not only lacks self-respect, but also makes very dumb investments!!!! These billboards would be a very romantic gesture......if it was him and his WIFE, not the sideline bimbo!!

I can't even imagine how his poor wife feels. This is truly a very embarrassing and hurtful thing to do to someone. I hope his wife leaves him and takes everything he has! He could do nothing but fess up to his affair after the billboards appeared, so we'll see what happens to his marriage shortly.

This chick Ya Vaughnie has no one to be mad at but herself. You deal with being someone's other woman for 8 years, and you have the nerve to get upset when he doesn't want you anymore?! Women set themselves up for failure believing that a happily ever after will come out of a relationship built on a lie. I have no sympathy for her or her disgusting way of trying to ruin this man because she was rejected. Have some class about yourself, you've been acting with no self respect or dignity this whole 8 years, the least she could've done is bowed out of it with grace. Instead she blasted this man and her own business to the world. What she doesn't realize is.....this kind of behavior wont get you a man of your own sweetheart. Although this was a funny story to read about, it shows men lots of things about this woman: poor money management, no self respect, naivety, and evil ways. I hope this makes men think a little harder before they cheat on their woman. This by far, tops every Affair scandal, including Tiger Woods nonsense.

Cute girl, but a psycho bitch.

Has the topic of child abuse and murder gone cold?

As I flipped through the channels the other day, my attention fell on CBS news, as I saw that another toddler has been harmed, and my heart fell into the pit of my stomach. Aveion Lewis, a beautiful little 2 yr. old is apparently missing, and the cops know that he is dead, although the cops have not been able to find his body. For those of you that haven't heard, here's the rundown.

Brandon Lockett, from the Roanoke area of Virginia, called the cops last Thursday and stated that his step son, Aveion Lewis, had been kidnapped from his home. He stated that three unknown intruders beat him, took Aveion, tied his sister up, and then left a note asking for $10000. He even went on the news pleading for his step son back, with both eyes blackened.

Now he is admitting that his step son was already dead for some time before he contacted authorities, and that he made up the kidnapping story. The cops still have not found Aveion's body, however Lockett has been charged with improper disposal of a human body, child neglect, and obstruction of justice. The mother has been questioned, but not charged with anything. There is however lots of proof, including burns on both legs, that this child was abused in the home.

This angers me for so many different reason, but my main concern is the media. Why is it that the media shed so much light on the Shaniya Davis story, bringing lots of attention to this child abuse matter, but now that it is happening again, there is not nearly as much media coverage? I understand that there are other serious matters such as the Haiti earthquake that killed hundreds of thousands of people, but at the same time, this child abuse and murdering that is continuing to go on in our country needs to be emphasized as much as possible. Why do things like this become trending news topics: one minute it's all they talk about on the news, and the next minute, its a passing story between the obese woman that crushed her boyfriend, and dog twitter pages. We have got to do better at bringing issues like this to light. There are too many children being hurt and killed to not discuss this a lot more than the media does. What if these children were your children, or family members? RIP Aveion Lewis